aprilthegayqueen:

I feel like a lot of abled people have a hard time accepting that for a lot of us, our disabilities won’t get better as time goes on.

It’s always stuff like “no, don’t be so negative!”

And honestly, I’m not being negative. I’m being realistic. If I wasn’t, I don’t think I’d be able to cope with my reality.

Or it might be “have faith! It’ll get better!”

And the thing is, a lot of the time it won’t. Some argue that medical advances are coming a long way and we could see improvement for our disabilities in our lifetime. And you know what? That is possible but for me (and others I’m sure) we don’t want to get hung up on hope for something like that. It’s not very likely for most of us and I don’t know about anyone else but trying to have hope is exhausting. My disability coping got so much better once I reached the “acceptance” stage of it. Because I did grieve.

I rambled a bit but my point is to stop telling disabled people how to feel about their disability and that they’re being “negative” for accepting it. It can be very invalidating and dismissive.

If a disabled person says it won’t get better, or that they can’t do something (because often we’re told “you can do anything you put your mind to!!!”), please believe them.

gowns:

this is my favorite reddit relationships post ❤️

rabidlitmajor:

rabidlitmajor:

Noooo don’t get a tattoo it’s so permanent blah blah blah my tattoo is whatever I want it to be and today it’s an octopus

Today is my mom’s bday so today my tattoo is her favorite key lime pie for her.

eludesu:

A quick Kyoru sketch to start the day ✨

biologicalstepfather:

If you know who Emmett Till is please reblog.

I’m trying to prove a point to my dad.

yokithewolfdog:

chainsawmansheart:

“Don’t blame me for what my ancestors have done!!!”

The Canadian schools closed in 1996, the US schools are still open. My dad had to legally fight for his right to leave the residential schools and go to a normal high school and graduate. The people who continued with the native genocide are still very much alive both in the world and in our minds. If you continue to deny and resist the truth, you’ll be continuing the genocide against us.

Also, super hard-to-swallow pills, but setting right the wrongs of our ancestors is kinda the only way we survive as a species.

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It’s actually a scam that fingering yourself doesn’t feel anywhere near as good as when someone else does it to you

afrocentric-divination:

Did I re-read the last bit of fruits basket because I’m not patient enough for the anime? Yes. Does that mean I’m ready for the next episode? Or the rest of the episodes? Especially the last episode, with the last scene? Absolutely not ☺️

pocketbucky:

nobody talks about how ugly taking care of yourself can be

yes, sometimes it’s taking a warm bath and texting memes to friends and keeping an aesthetically pretty journal.

sometimes it’s crying silently on your couch at 3am, hugging yourself and reminding yourself that you’re a good person.

self care is not always ‘aesthetic’ and cute…and that’s ok. don’t be embarrassed, just do what you need to do.